Is it really possible to change our subconscious mind, to stop always overthinking, doubting ourselves, not trusting our feelings to allow us to succeed?
The answer is YES!
I thought I knew it ALL. I mean, on the outside, I looked like I had it all together. I was a strong, confident woman who’d co-founded a multimillion-dollar business. But behind closed doors, I constantly felt mentally drained, emotionally I doubted every decision I made, self-sabotaged, and internally felt like a fraud.
I read many self-help books, did so many business and marketing courses, tried therapy, and hired many of the best experts.
I kept thinking, “I must just have to go higher up the ladder” because surely those at the top must have the correct answers, right?
Wrong! These experts would tell me, “business is not supposed to be emotional”… “It’s just business!”
The Truth IS… for those who don’t have the results they want, they need to consider that what’s STOPPING them is not LOGICAL, it’s EMOTIONAL.
As children, our trust is built and fostered by an emotional bond dependent on the responses of our parents and caretakers….
…but when that trust gets broken, we experience a trauma, which leads to recurring self-sabotaging behaviours:
We experience an immense amount of shame…
Without knowing how to process how we feel, we internalise our shame to think “there must be something wrong with me” (these self-sabotaging emotions then become part of our identity and who we think we are).
This leaves us feeling unworthy and abandoned (it’s also the exact moment where we lose our “authentic self” and take on our “false self” to survive).
We then try hard to figure out what happened to us to never have to experience it again (since our emotions are no longer safe).
From that day forward, we will continue to repeat the same self-sabotaging cycle over and over again until we resolve it.